Point Counter Point: Should women in Krueger be able to have their boyfriends sleep over?
February 2, 2016
We’re all adults here; I think we can mostly agree on that. And as such, we should be able to make adult decisions and behave in respectable ways toward one another.
I’m adult enough to be cognizant of the fact that sometimes we want our significant other to spend the night with us and this shouldn’t be a problem between two consenting adults.
Except for the fact that most of us have roommates that we ought to consider, and that some women have chosen to live in the residence hall that is exclusively inhabited by women.
In my view, when a woman chooses to live in Krueger, she is doing so knowing that she will be living with only women, eliminating male encounters of a more intimate nature within their designated living space.
This is a conscious decision.
If I chose a women-only place to live, it would be knowing that there would be no men around during the more vulnerable times of my day, like at night or in the morning when I am certainly not at my best and might not want to expose myself to a member of the opposite sex, especially when I do not know this person particularly well.
That being said, for this particular residence hall, policy against men in the building during the night should be in place and be enforced.
I think if you have chosen to live in such a place you must respect the inherent designation.
One has to think of not only herself or her roommate in wanting to have her boyfriend spend the night, but also of every other woman in that building who has chosen to live there, whether or not it was because they wanted that particular separation from men.
This isn’t about being an inconsiderate roommate, even if that may be the case with some, or about coming off as having a ‘prudish’ personality.
You have to realize a person wanting to live among only her own sex is often a choice of comfort and security.
Violating this for one’s own selfish reasons, intended or not, is a blatant sign of disrespect.
Leave your childish wants at the door, start acting like a real adult and consider others.
My first two years at Lakeland I spent living in Kruger Hall, the all girl’s dorm. I have wonderful memories of hanging out with the other women living there and occasionally men.
In the past, there were rules preventing men to stay in the hall past certain times. As of late, the rules were released, and now boys can stay overnight with roommate and RA permission.
Upon hearing this news, I rejoiced. Too many times have I had to sneak men in my room because we were short on money or time to reserve a room. And I don’t mean lovers; my visiting family members and friends who needed a place to stay were always welcome in my dorm.
Family members who are visiting need a place to stay; if only one person is staying the night, why rent out an entire room? The way I see it, you are renting the place and you have the freedom to let whoever stay whenever.
I believe men staying overnight is no issue as long as you have your roommate’s permission. We are all adults and can make the decision whether someone is fit to stay with us or not. People over the age of 18 of the opposite sex shouldn’t be stopped from spending time together by the college.
Whoever stays in your room is you and your roommate’s business alone. When roommates have issues with visitors, then it is time for the school to get involved.
If other women who live in the dorm hall have an issue, their rooms lock individually. If someone makes them feel incredibly uncomfortable, they can call security for assistance.
The issue with excluding visiting men is that they can rent out guest rooms in Kruger anyways. If someone truly wanted to break in and pillage the place, they could rent a room for the night.
When friends of the opposite gender want to hang out and watch movies or play board games, why can’t they do this in Kruger Hall? Is there an issue with having friends of opposite genders?
The current rules set in Kruger Hall are fair to everyone; men are allowed to visit as long as they have the roommate’s and RA’s permission, and visitors must be escorted by the person they are visiting to enter the dorm area.
By limiting women from inviting men over, the college is limiting the resident’s freedoms.